I havent met JLoh for a few months but maintained close contact with her via phone. She called me on the eve of my birthday last month and we had a long phone chat, giggling like teenagers exchanging bedtime stories.
Somehow, last Saturday night, we decided to make a date to see each other after she finishes work at a local 5-star hotel. Supper was noodle soup and a few rounds of teh tarik at Kampung Bharu. Finally conversation steered towards our current love lives and family.
At this age and with a teenager in tow, I told her, that I really dont have time to play mind games neither I can afford to play the “game” way too many times. Its just so time consuming, energy draining and, confusing. I have always been comfortable in making out plans ahead of time so that I can gauge where I am when the time arrives. The companion and partner that I am looking for should be able to handle my emotional needs and is a free man on paper. The checklist is rather long too.
Yet, I related to her, my current beau, The Seafarer, has challenged me with my own rules and boundaries and I started to question everything up to the point of me not enjoying the courtship anymore. So, over the third teh tarik I even mentioned vaguely about doing SWOT analysis on this relationship! Whats the ROI and should I draw up a KPI as well while I am at it?
Hmmm…okay, this is getting crazier by the day.
JLoh was right. I didnt give this relationship a fighting chance. I was too busy gauging the end result and not enjoying the process or the journey. She said, stop for a while and smell the roses. Cross the bridge when you arrive and not before as you dont know when you will reach there. But thats the problem, I want so badly to plan my journey so I can know when I will reach the bridge.