People say to love again means you have to let go of your past baggages and be free to love again without judgements or hesitation. You must be free emotionally so as to give the new relationship a chance to develop to something more meaningful.
Oh well, I have finally crossed the bridge and The Seafarer is a free man now as how he had always wanted to be. I will try not to write what went wrong. Enough said that sometimes a man and a cat doesnt know whats good for them. (I should thank my friend Ms R for this last bit of quote)