Why They Come In Pairs

I was out at a friend’s place over the weekend. Kind of a girls’ Saturday night except that there wasnt any disco lights or loud music involved. It was just the three of us girls – me, Rose and Yvonne, sitting on Rose’s balcony, sipping some Chilean white and watching the sun set.

Rose had just moved to this rambling double storey bungalow and it looked homey and inviting. I commented on her book shelves which were laden with all the books she so loved. She cooked the loveliest dinner and we ate in her kitchen.

I felt great having some good friends like these two. We caught up with our latest stories, this and that.

I think in our lives, we can only have so many friends but how many are there who are truly a friend to you? Same goes for loving a person. You can love a person so much but have you ever really love?

Someone I knew in a not to distance life ago chose to be alone and disregard any resemblance or attempt by anyone who tried to get closer to him. I cannot for the life of me think that I would end up sitting alone on my balcony watching the sunset.


Deep inside, I can see why The Man Upstairs has said that He had created His creatures in pairs,so that they can love and be loved, and all will be well.


The Big Four Oh Oh Oh

Wow! Looks like I have come to the Big Four Oh Oh Oh today!

I woke up very early this morning and watched the sun rose ever so slowly. My Guy called to wish me the happiest birthday. Thank you, Love, for the wonderful wishes.

So, how does it feel to wake up one morning and realized that the number at the front of your age changed ? I dont know, as it didnt feel anything at all except that it is a now a different number, and a big one too.

I remember when I was young, I looked forward to celebrate my 13th birthday because I knew I was old enough to have my identity card. I looked forward to celebrate my 15th birthday because it was a turning point where I would be transfered to a co-ed school (I was all the while in MGS). 17th birthday because, well, it was 17 and I looked forward to explore the world.

I received a diamond and gold key-shaped pendant from my mom when I was 17 too. I couldnt recall how I celebrated my 21st birthday. Time flies and I never thought the Big Four Oh number would come any sooner.

Eventually it did and it is today.

With a very low key pre birthday trip, The Teenager, her friends and I bundled together into two cars and we went away to the beach for the weekend. We had fun in the sun, played on the beach and watched the sunset. No more clubbing or going for the night scenes for birthday celebrations as I truly enjoyed more of the quiet times like these.


What does it mean to hit the Big Four Oh?

For one, it marked the day that I crossed the imaginary age of “truly living” or “life starts at 40”, whatever that means. Independant, mature like fine wine, liberated.

Yeah. Thats how it feels.

So. Wishing me a Happy Big Four Oh Oh Oh Birthday and God willing, more to come!



(the resort where we stayed. Awsome pool view from my bedroom)

Time Flies And It Is Okay

I was re reading a few entries I did since my first blogging experience way back in 2007, picked a few choiced months in 2008 and reflected. I read an entry in February 2008 about my house-shifting to the current place. Lots of things have changed too. There seemed to be an identifiable emotions than ran across the blog, like riding waves. It went high, rolled then hit it low and eased. Then again and again.

But nowadays the waves seems to be calmer. I feel more at peace with myself, no more major emotional turmoil that could have dragged me down below, and drown.

Some people could and never would find the inner peace due to their own doings I think. They refuse to let go of the past and is always fighting with the world. I figured since I am going to spend a mighty long time in this life, God willing, I might as well live well, peacefully and happily. The Seafarer, a few days ago spoke to me. Refused to believe that it has been over for a long time now. Refusing also to believe that I have definitely moved on and is happier in a loving relationship that I have now. I see that he is still fighting with his past demons, his concience, dragging his baggages, is bitter and spiteful. Apparently he is back with his estranged wife of 13 years and 2 children. Perhaps they deserve the unhappiness with each other. I dont know. Some people are such suckers for living life like that.

Time flies yes. And that is okay. There is a new day, new things and hopefully a better future.

College – Here She Comes!

The Teenager is finally leaving for college tomorrow!







How time flies. I thought it was just yesterday I held her in my arms, all 2.2kg of her. She was accepted into 7 colleges but after given much thought, she had decided to make a local college in Damansara Utama as her home for the next two and half years for a program in Broadcasting.

Favourite Destinations Of Malaysia – Pahang

The last I went for a real holiday was a few more months back where The Teenager and I took a slow drive over to Melaka for a nice weekend. It was a rather short get-away but needed.

Ever since I was small, I love going on trips like these. I recall my mom and dad would fetch me on the last day of school and I’d change into holiday attire. We would take a nice, slow drive heading to some exciting destinations with the occassional stops at some kampungs to eat durians or rambutans, or take a quick dip in clear rivers.

Even now, in my mind, whenever I take my drive out of KL, somehow the nostalgic feelings would come back and it is as if I am back being 7 years old and going for these trips.

Along the years, I have travelled extensively all over Malaysia including Sabah and Sarawak. Favourite places are varied – they could be the cold mountains of Mount Kinabalu, the gorgeous beaches in Sipadan, Pangkor, Tioman or Langkawi, the seafood haven in Kuching or Kota Kinabalu, the historical cities of Melaka or Penang or, the laid-back towns and cities of Kuantan or Kota Bharu. Ive seen them all and I would love to be back.

Ive lost most of the pictures taken over the years due to relocation and all that events happened in one’s life but the sights and smell are still so vivid to me.

I have compiled a few sites that will show some of the mentioned places starting with my state of birth, Pahang, and by no means they are exaustive.


Pahang – I lived in Kuantan, Pahang for a good 7 years right after I left school. There are a few good beaches came to mind for a good beach destination-

Teluk Chempedak – after I left my first job at one of the international hotels in Kuantan, I opened up a small boutique at the Teluk Chempedak selling beach wear and batik items to hoardes of German, French and Japanese tourists who stayed at the nearby Hyatt Kuantan. Business was brisk and I made many new friends. Teluk Chempedak is considered one of the most beautiful beaches in Pahang and had undergone a few rounds of facelifts. Great place to see sunrise.

Balok – well known for kite-boarding activities and is a favourite destination with tourists in the month of June to September when the weather is warm and the sea oh-so-inviting. Many resorts, from 5-start to mom-and-pops sprouted along the beach of Balok. You can almost always find something that fits in to your budget. Oh, by the way, if you drive along the road in this area, watch out for “land-mines” (cow dungs). Cows are just simply everywhere.

Rompin/Lanjut  – now, this is quite a destination to drive all the way from Kuantan but it will be worth all the one hour drive. Along the way, you will see what Pahang is all about – jungles and forest. Giant old trees lining up the highway with the occassional rivers that just begs you to stop for a dip. Rompin is also the destination for the Endau Rompin National Park. An amazing place to visit to be acquainted back with nature.

Cherating Beach  – the famous Club Med is located in the Cherating beach. The nearest neighbour is the Impiana Hotel and Resort which is the last resort located towards the border of Pahang-Terengganu. I had fond memories of Cherating beach where my friends and I used to escape to this place after a long week working. Cherating, truly was so tranquil that it make you feel you would not want to leave. Imagine having a lazy breakfast in your most comfortable attire and then whiling the rest of the day on a hammock under the coconut trees.

Fraser’s Hills – My dad’s final posting as a Headmaster was to Fraser’s Hills. He lived there for about 3 years before his retirement at the age of 55, and that was 8 years ago. The Olde Smoke House is a favourite retreat for city folks although there are a few of old bungalows for rent. Recommended for those who are looking for a reasonable retreat in a cold place away from the city.

Taman Negara National Park, Pahang –  what can I say about this place but all fond memories of going back to nature activities I had? There are really good accommodations for those who want some creature-comforts. Mutiara Taman Negara is one of the resorts which is highly recommeded although there are a few other basis A-Huts or chalets for those who travels on a lighter budget.

Tasik Chini (Lake Chini) – when I was still working for a travel agency way back years ago, part of my job was to take tourists who wanted to see the splendour of Tasik Chini. My first love story with Tasik Chini even started when I was still young, maybe about 7 or 8 years old when my then grandad used to take me for a visit to the Orang Asli village during the school holidays and we would canoe-ed along the lakes and small rivers in a boat fashioned out of a dug-out tree trunk. Scary thing when you cant swim and the water was just inches away from you…

Almost A Perfect Morning

It is Saturday!! Yippee!!

It has been an almost purrr–fect morning so far. I woke up around 7.30am and lounged about around the house doing this and that. Rexton The Cat is enjoying the nice, hot sunshine at the flower box as I blog this.

My kind of a perfect morning:

To be on a beach for a morning walk


Enjoying my favourite breakfast spreads.


Lounging on the beach while reading some books…….


And just be close to my Loved Ones!


What Consultants Do – The Chicken Joke

Question: Why did the chicken cross the road?

Asking this question denies your own chicken nature.

Colonel Sanders:
Damn, I missed one!

What a Consulting firm would say:
Deregulation of the chicken’s side of the road was threatening its dominant market position. The chicken was faced with significant challenges to create and develop the competencies required for the newly competitive market. XYZ Consulting, in a partnering relationship with the client, helped the chicken by rethinking its physical distribution strategy and implementation processes. Using the Poultry Integration Model (PIM), XYZ helped the chicken use its skills, methodologies, knowledge, capital and experiences to align the chicken’s people, processes and technology in support of its overall strategy within a Program Management framework. XYZ Consulting convened a diverse cross-spectrum of road analysts and best chickens along with XYZ consultants with deep skills in the transportation industry to engage in a two-day itinerary of meetings in order to leverage their personal knowledge capital, both tacit and explicit, and to enable them to synergize with each other in order to achieve the implicit goals of delivering and successfully architecting and implementing an enterprise-wide value framework across the continuum of poultry cross-median processes. The meeting was held in a park-like setting, enabling and creating an impactful environment which was strategically based, industry-focused, and built upon a consistent, clear, and unified market message and aligned with the chicken’s mission, vision, and core values. This was conducive towards the creation of a total business integration solution. CYZ Consulting helped the chicken change to become more successful.

An Ode To Public Servants

Ten public servants standing in a line,
one of them was downsized – then there were nine.

Nine public servants who must negotiate,
one joined the union – then there were eight.

Eight public servants thought they were in heaven,
’til one of them was redeployed – then there were seven.

Seven public servants, their jobs as safe as bricks,
but one was reclassified – then there were six.

Six public servants trying to survive,
one of them was privatised – then there were five.

Five public servants ready to give more,
but one golden handshake reduced them to four.

Four public servants full of loyalty,
their jobs were advertised – then there were three.

Three public servants under review,
one left on secondment – then there were two.

Two public servants coping on the run,
one went out on stress leave – then there was one.

The last public servant agreed to relocate,
replaced by 10 consultants at twice the hourly rate.