The Things That I Am Not When Married To A White Guy

8 thoughts on “The Things That I Am Not When Married To A White Guy”

  1. enjoyed reading your post. i’m a TCK, half malaysian half mauritian and found your post really interesting 🙂 looking forward to more.

    take care!

  2. Thanks so much for visiting my blog. It has always been an interesting topic to see how perceptions on mixed marriages and children born from mixed marriages are discussed. Please share with me your challenges being a “half half”? 😉 and living in Malaysia I assumed?

  3. This is a great piece… there are just too many people trying to box everyone into their own of ‘perception of life’.

    Let’s Live life. 🙂

  4. hai hanie.i am single lady age 26.i came across ur posting.i found it was so interesting.u know i am myself very eager to marry with a mat salleh.i tried to post everywhere but none reply.i dont have time to search outside due to my tight schedule but still the indulgence to have a mat salleh husband very high.i dont know whats so speacial about them but i know i had very bad experienced with local here so i lost my trustworthy on them.all of my friends ask me why u like mat salleh too that because they have money or u want to have golden baby.i dont have the answer.i guess u have my answer as both of us lead to the same way.hani tell me is there any complication when u settle down with ur husband?i think i might need ur help hani if u can introduce me may be u have some friends who are single and eager to settle down here.i mean dont get me wrong am been tired looking around but i never bring my hope down.i bet u a very cute charming lady who full of sincererity can help me waiting for ur reply and god bless u

  5. Hi Wild Roses,

    marrying a mat salleh may sound exciting, interesting and comes with a few benefits as well. That was from one perspective at least. Some may see marrying them as a ticket from boring kampung life, and to add spice and colours to the relationship. (pun intended). Like you said, the golden babies etc. They are certainly different, most are gentlemen and treat ladies a bit differently from the Asian men, or even Malay men. But at the end of the day, they are still men and human with red blood running through veins irregardless the colour of their skin or the green or blue eyes they have, or the blonde hair on their head.

    They come with the usual stuff we Asians have – morgages, child support if they have children from previous marriage, bills to pay, mothers who dont want to let them go….There are also main issues that you need to consider: 1) religion 2) religion 3) religion. See how I kept on saying religion? (I assume that you are a Malay Muslim) It is great to be with a partner but a few years down the road you may find that he is not ready to convert. Many will think twice about converting as 1) they need to be circumcised 2) limited intake of alcohol i.e. beer which is like drinking water to most 3) clash of culture. Most are quite quite adaptable but can you?

  6. How interesting it is to find someone who has almost everything in common with me. I am a Malay happily married to a Brit and now very settled with life in KL over the last 4 years.

    We met when I was working in the UK and while I was there, I tried to be an ambassador to everything Malaysian. Like you, I refuse to dye my hair anything other than black or dark brown. I even refuse to speak English with an British accent.

    Since I’ve been back, I find it so difficult to find a friend(s) who has this common similarities with me. We dont marry a mat salleh other than the fact that they treat us in a far more respectable way. They don’t expect me to learn a recipe and cook their favorite food. They don’t expect me to ask PERMISSION to go out, instead he would ask me where I am going so he knows I am safe.


  7. Sorry, chubby fingers keep failing me.

    As it is a rarity to find someone with similar interest, would you email me directly so we can be friends as I find it hard talking to my gal pals who “obeys” their partners as opposed to “respect” them 😦 and those who think that all mat salleh print money!! So frustrating

    Look forward to coffee soon 🙂


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